SMOLDERING LOOKS VS DEPRESSION #MENTAL HEALTH&WELLNESS#

Looking Good they say is good business &truth be said the first thing we notice about people are their faces/attractive looks it arrests our attention&we yearn towards having amazing interactions with them aiming to know them better, of course that’s awesome but the question here is how beautiful do they feel on the inside?

Have you ever stopped to wonder why we get disappointed knowing the most beautiful People have the most damaged, psychotic demonic attributes, Sincerely my answer to that is we live in a vicious cruel world.

Its a world filled with people placing so much expectations on you, a world where Loyalty is going out of extinction,we face betrayals,dissatisfaction, immense disappointments &have the ghost of our unrealized dreams continuously hunting us steadily while we get up everyday trying to survive.

Trust me when I say a handful of pretty dashing folks are walking corpses dealing with disturbing larger than life situations beyond what their hearts can handle,they are broken hearted&depressed yes I said it depression is so real& the order of the day its not just a condition only Caucasian people go through even Blacks,Asians,Hispanics& all other races etc.. In most Cases individuals go into this depression phases due to loss of their loved ones,peer pressure/cyber bullying, being laid off from jobs they once cherished or not even finding the right jobs that pays those skyrocketing bills, coming out of abusive relationships both romantic& platonic after all this psychological traumas their brains fail to handle&process them in a positive light they get mental break downs & they in turn lose that Glitz they once had see themselves as failures and when it gets out of hands they begin to have suicidal thoughts and most times they actually put an end to their lives by their own hands.

Behind most perfect warm responses to the how are you doing questions?that come with I’m so fine accompanied by smiles people give us are mirages beneath those are saddened individuals who cry their eyes out to bed until they become so weak&fall asleep they beat themselves over issues,carry those burdens every where they go which subconsciously affects their characters & turns them into evil creatures whose sole purpose is to make sure anyone who comes into their lives feel same heat,sadness they are nursing they are always unhappy with themselves & always ready to lash out at any one that gets in their way.  Sometimes it takes not just judging a book by its incredible cover but having a read through it to understand it,unravel some dark hidden secrets lurking around,numerous skeletons in their cupboards&they dump their bad baggages on friends&families that may not be able to handle their weird one minute Goofy hot the next minute cold Bi-Polar attributes which they find hard to relay to people, before we cut them off i urge us to make a few excuses for them&be patient with them because everyone in life is fighting their own unique battles. If you are under this category&reading this piece my heart&prayers are with you and trust me when I say there’s a bright light after the dark tunnel ,you would overcome it victoriously because guess what you are a warrior & God gives his Toughest battles only to his Strongest soldiers

In Conclusion here are simple ways to get over Dark times

A.)Stay Optimistic always don’t be around people or situations with negative energies those would compound your problems.

B.)No matter how hard it is get a new hobby that would distract you&bring joy to your life I.e reading great motivational books,take dancing or cooking classes, learn a craft etc.

C.)If you can afford it travel out of the current state you live in see a different colorful world& leave your gloomy world behind it would be a breath of fresh air for you.

D.)Visit friends&family members interacting with loved ones is way Therapeutic

E.)Ring cellphones of your family members/friends open up to them they most times have perfect answers to  your situation. They dish out amazing engaging conversations those would lift your spirit.

F.) Go out for leisure activities more often&let the steam off i.e attend  birthdays&wedding celebrations hiking,movies,visit a mall,take long beautiful walks in a park.

G.)Remember you shouldn’t rely on people to stay happy for your happiness comes from you alone,so go on be Happy&live your life to the fullest like a rockstar because you deserve every bit of it.

P.s Please let’s ensure we check up on people in our Lives more often especially those who suddenly have gone off the radar get them to talk about whats going on with them you may never know whose life you would be saving by a simple Phone call.. Cheers Friends XOXO.

 

SEXY GRACEFUL WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE

Happy happy international women’s day to all my sisters across the globe black ,white,hispanic,asian ,all the hardworking relentless,dogged women who are mind blowing confirmed hustlers&divas, goal oriented/goal getters,who strive to excel in all they lay their hands on in life. In case you are unaware or perhaps you have forgotten this is a reminder alert! you all to need to know you are more than enough ,you are a blessing to the world, you are not only life givers but your hearts are as pure&genuine as gold . I do hope you are aware women are the strongest beings to hit planet earth what other gender can bleed for 3-7 days without dying, birth kids,cater for the family, run businesses on the side, work 9-5 jobs,walk in 6-9 inches stiletto heels effortlessly with no hassles whatsoever&still carry themselves with so much grace ..durh its only the female clan shout out to all the women out there for earning their super hero capes& so also I encourage you all out there instead of putting each other down,envying,engaging in baseless gossips about each other let’s follow the world’s global trend support women doing good for themselves,support women in politics,admire their hardworking spirits,work towards your own ambitions because there is enough space in the sky for all of us to shine,encourage them,let us show the men that together everyone can achieve more (We are a TEAM)let us also show the brothers that big girls don’t indulge in cat fights but big girls do big things , big girls contribute their own quotas to national development,carve a niche for themselves & leave their footprints in the sands of times.

The success of one woman should be an Inspiration to another. Cheers mates.

HOW TO BE A PERFECT HOUSE GUEST WITHOUT RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HOST

Hi there!top of the morning to you rise&shine my royal one breakfast has been served in bed for you just the way you like it lol..gotchya.

Now i have u where i want its time for us to rub minds so for a while now i have been meaning talk about this issue i know so many of us can relate to it on different levels as petty as it may sound its also a delicate one that should be handled with so much sensitivity because a handful of people have lost important friends&family members due to some nasty bad habits they possess which rubs off on others don’t get me wrong no man or woman is perfect but laws were made for us to abide by& so also to checkmate behaviors. The next time you are thinking of travelling out of our your comfort zone to visit houses of relatives&friends try your possible best to abide to their non negotiable house guest etiquettes&treat their home like its yours that way it would leave them begging you to extend your stay and keep them anticipating for your next visit

1.) Surprise Them With a Gift- your host most times have gone the extra length to prepare for your arrival by keeping the house neat,preparing a room&bed for you to stay in so show some appreciation in return. i know sometimes we make some impromptu trips sometimes with finance as a major constraint but no matter how small it is try to buy something for your host  you know what I mean a little something to get them feeling special,get their hearts all giddy&pumped up I.e a bottle of wine, a packet of their favorite cookies,a packet of green or spicy tea N.B you must be knowledgeable about your their likes before gifting them so you don’t end up buying them things they throw away.

2.)Buy Your Own Extra Groceries – if you are going to be staying with them for more than 3days to be on d safe side since they are offering you their home don’t stress them with feeding you 24/7 especially when you are a picky eater they might not complain but deep down won’t be pleased &if you have some extra cash at hand you could buy some groceries they never even asked for.

3.)Don’t Ever Forget To Travel With Your Towel,Toiletries&Other Essential Cosmetics -this is one of the most common&annoying mistakes most guests make that could be a pet peeve/turn off for your host not everyone likes sharing personal stuff due to their level of hygiene so its a no no situation so ensure when packing up for your trip your bag is well stocked with your basic day to day toilet needs i.e toothbrush,toothpaste,soap,bathing gloves,deodorant,perfumes&body cream. Trust me don’t leave any room to get talked down on because of simple basic things.

4.)Ask About Their House Rules&Abide By Them – I.e their lights out/curfew time to avoid getting locked out or getting into altercations with your host,also should the door be locked when you leave& where you can keep the spare house key they handed to you when running your personal errands.

5.)Lend a Helping Hand-  whatever the case may be let your host know you are more than happy to lend a helping hand even though most times they might say no out of Courtesy&politeness but as time goes on when they get familiar with you they would be comfortable accepting your help I.e is your host trying to slave around to cook you that superb meal in the kitchen offer to help they might not need it all they want might just be an extra company.

6.)Give Them Their Personal Space -as amazing as it might be to have you around please don’t always choke them up with your presence let them have regular breathers get yourself busy by indulging in personal physical pursuits i.e Stay in the room assigned to you reading your favourite novel/magazine,surf through the internet or you could even ask them about fun places in the city you can visit that is if you are new to the environs,ask how to get there so you don’t get lost&you could even extend an invite for them to join you in your lovely excursion.

7.)Leave General Areas tidy&Always Dress Your Beddings- when served meals once you are done eating you could nicely wash your dishes&be kind to help clean up extra ones in the kitchen sink,lay your bed sheets before you leave the house for you daily activities,make sure the lights,electrical equipments are turned out,put the toilet seat down,trash wraps from your groceries,because this might be their biggest pet peeve. P.s when you are staying with friend’s&family whatever you do in your home nonchalantly don’t do it in theirs they might not respond to your messiness&lack of discipline but be sure you won’t get a second invite due to that because nobody’s wants to pick up your slob.

8.)Don’t go through their stuff without asking for permission -I.e avoid bagging into places&taking sneak peeks inside their rooms without permission,don’t Open up their fridges ,kitchen cabinets,Clothing Wardrobes if they are not there its a rude habit that might get them pissed off&disgusted so respect their privacy&personal belongings

9.)Bonus- this isn’t mandatory especially if you are occupied but if u have free time on your hands&you are a good Cook you could surprise your host to a good cooked home made delicacy but if not I would advice you to respect yourself,your not so old age&take them to lunch or dinner if at all need be*lmao or better still if you are buoyant enough & you want to express your gratitude buy them a nice parting gift.

10.)Ring them up/Send Them A Thank You Note- Once you depart from their household&arrive at yours it is your solemn duty to reach out to them,sound really thankful&appreciate them for their selflessness,generosity&sacrifice that played a major role in making your stay a pleasant one because they could have made up zillion excuses why they could not have your over but guess what they did,and this says a lot they their opened their home&world to you. Show them you cherish their efforts i bet your next visit into town would be yearned for .

 

 

 

WHY SETTLE FOR THE 2ND BEST WHEN YOU CAN BE THE GREATEST

Hello there,hello my favorite readers here I go again.. So its dusk already&i’m trying to find my way back home in the beautiful city centre of abuja,Nigeria’s federal capital territory, all the street lights are turned On&Shining bright like diamonds *reference from the famous supernova rihanna”s hit song* There&then whispers a tiny birdie voice that says to me the Full moon is out in its elements vampires&ware wolves are going to be creeping out soon to eat us all up*Boom* lmao just screwing with your minds.

Now i have earned your attention,let us dig into our discuss for the day which happens to be settling for the 2nd best I’m here all by myself suddenly i feel like connecting ties&empowering someone out there who has been going back&forth setting standards then later on almost immediately Settles for Less than they truly deserve be It job related,relationship wise,hanging out with the wrong crowd etc . The question that just ran through my mind was why settle for less when u can have the full package?P.s Save the answer for when you are done reading this piece. Sometimes people we relate closely to In our lives condition our minds to believe that they are the best thing we ever had,we can never do better than them,we would never meet folks more gracious than them ,the list goes on and whatever other imaginary perception&lies they have going that makes them sleep better at night whether its our significant others,platonic friends or our even employee’s they might make us feel they are offering us the best experience/option available . Just so you are aware that eventually gives them the edge&power to control our minds But guess what your life isn’t tied to anyone’s destiny,does not& should not evolve around any individual they are not the air you breathe & you won’t die if they stopped existing in your life. Therefore you need to open your heart ,broaden your horizon,see the other amazing opportunities life has in store then alas come to the realisation that you are not a mediocre. God didn’t send you to earth to fulfil a second place position,second hand purpose,or destiny I just want you to know you are powerful, strong,capable of being loved by the Right people you just need to surround yourself with the right company that completes you and encourage your growth,those who would always cheer you on during your struggles&success and are not fair weather opportunists.  Never for once should you should feel intimidated, never Stop dreaming big,Face that fear&deal with it ,don’t lose hope or confidence in yourself because you are the next big thing that would hit planet earth with an impact more massive than a tornadoe&hurricane put together side by side

Now I urge you to go out there,live your life to its full potential, have set goals,visions,work really hard towards achieving them&,never say never. Now is the time to shoot at the skies till you hit the stars&become one of them i’m counting on you so do me proud honey cheers.

Woo-Hoo,Whoop Whoop! Hurray Its the Birth of My New Blog

So It’s 2am in the Morning Nigerian Time(WAT) And I got motivated to finally start A Blog its the online read through of my V-log on YouTube”EtomiRuthOmardiaries “.   Yippie! I officially welcome You All my Diligent Readers rooting for this Blog to turn out successful I promise to never let u down&Dish my rapporteur in Hot Sauce Just like I know how to. I won’t mince my words,I would be blunt &realistic as Possible. So Feel free to Drop your comments and Suggestions below I would respond to them with immediate Alacrity*In my best British Accent*Lol. So the Sole Aim of creating this Blog was To ensure i connect with people from different Parts of the world,Learn new cultures,embrace their Socio Cultural heritage&also Be kept Abreast on the latest trends in development.  Need I say more its a way of Contributing my own Quota to nation building. This blog would focus on Lifestyle,Politics,Entertainment,Health&Hygiene,Fashion for Males&Females so also Relationships&the issues surrounding it. Since we are in a Jet age I urge u all to come on board this Aircraft, You are Welcome My Darlings To Flight 745&its ready for take off Please leave whatever you are doing I need your immediate attention!! So Relax,Grab a Sit&Don’t forget to Fasten your seat belts, Because you are in for one hell of a Joyful Ride. Furthermore Permit Me To mesmerize your minds .Happy New year i wish u all Good luck&God’s speed in Your Endeavours. Cheers Guys